Have you ever stopped for a minute to actually think about what being "single" means? Probably in many other countries, the word single simply means NOT having a boyfriend and/or husband. Period.
In our country, however, it seems to have such a horrible connotation that people seem to run as far away from it as possible.
Being single has been stigmatized and people believe you can only be happy if you are in some sort of relationship...
There are people who are miserable in their relationships, but they would still never break it off because they refuse to be single.
I know there are people who think I'm just a love hater. I'm not, believe it or not.
I do like being in love and I think it's probably the most wonderful feeling ever.
However, I'm a very realistic person. Those daydreaming days are long gone and there is simply no more room for stupid utopias. Love is what it is. Life is what it is.
I have to admit I HATE seeing people settling for less than they know they want and deserve, out of fear of being alone.
Since when does being alone mean being lonely?
Why do we have to think that we can't find happiness if we are alone? Why do we have to hold onto someone else or base our happiness on someone other than ourselves?
How can we look at ourselves in the mirror every morning and truly smile and say I AM HAPPY?
It's taken me exactly 2 years and 4 months to get there.
I think I can finally look at myself in the mirror with a smile on my face and say "I'm ok. I'm happy."
Why should I hate myself for being single?
Why should I be sad or depressed because I don't have someone to call me 24/7 and monitor every single one of my steps? Why should I be sad if I don't have someone to get jealous because I talk to a friend? Why should I be sad if I don't have someone who will break my heart?
People only see being single as the worst thing that could possibly happen to them. Instead, they should embrace that status. They should do what fulfills them. They should go out and party, maybe hang out with friends, go for a walk, go to the beach, read a book, watch a movie, or simply do things you never got around to because you were always busy with somebody else.
I have been in love before. I, too, have felt that kind of love that makes your legs shake and your conscience fly away with a simple kiss. I have felt what ultimate love and passion is.
And that is the one and only reason I refuse to settle for less than that.
I refuse to hold somebody's hand if I know that person doesn't own 100% of my heart. I refuse to say I love you to somebody if I don't feel it 100%. I refuse to share a life with someone only because I'm afraid I won't find somebody else.
I refuse to waste my time and make that person waste theirs.
I refuse to settle for less than perfection.
If this means I have to be single, so be it.
I'm a smart person, I'm talented, and one day I will be a freaking awesome and successful translator who won't need somebody else's approval to find ultimate happiness.
I refuse to be afraid to be alone.
I refuse to be like everybody else...
I'm stronger than that. I'm better than that...
Being single doesn't mean you're not good enough for anyone. It means no one is good enough for you.
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